Embracing Boredom, Especially for Kids

No doubt thanks to someone’s inane but much-touted childrearing advice, many parents think kids should be entertained 24/7.  Add this to the “new information!!!!!” that kids should also make decisions for which they have neither the training, maturity, nor understanding to make, and you have frustrated and unattractive children on the loose.  Everywhere.

When my kids were acting up and acting out I had the wisdom (because of going to and believing and trusting God’s Word) to know I  was the key.  They needed me to be a warrior not a whiner, a problem solver, not a problem lamenter.  They needed me to look in the mirror and say, “Bev, are you a mother or milquetoast?”

They needed me to be wise to their manipulative and selfish ways, not a pudding or a jello, quivering at the very thought of my precious and perfect little ones not having everything they want every minute of the day.  They needed me to be a no-nonsense responder to their childish nonsense. (Sorry to all child-worshippers, but the last thing anyone on earth needs is for their needs to be the most important thing on earth.)

The parental response of “Find something to do or I’ll find something for you to do,” (and this didn’t mean something electronic) has been replaced with a horror of boredom.

Hold it.  Whoa.  Stop right there.  Boredom can be a very good thing.  Boredom fosters creativity and thinking.  As I told my kids on the rare occasions (kids learn quick what works and what backfires bigtime) they complained of boredom, “I’ve never been bored in my life.  I’m both simple enough and wise enough to be fascinated with God’s world.”

Translation:  Go play in the creek or chase lizards, or build a new fort, or make a train out of the fold-up chairs in the garage.  Go dig in the dirt or have a tea party with your dolls.  Just go and do and don’t tell me you’re bored.

I didn’t care if they simply sat on the back porch and dreamed of fighting pirates in a storm at sea, sighing at the “boredom” of their lives.  I didn’t care if they climbed a tree and listened to the birds all day long, or did nothing at all.  What I cared about was the attitude that their lack of ability to amuse themselves was not only my problem, it was my fault.

Sometimes we as moms have to sit on our urge to make everything perfect and beautiful for our little darlings.  We have to disabuse ourselves of the FALSE notion that the world will end and they will graduate at the bottom of the class if they even for one minute do nothing.

Doing nothing at all, but without a “poor little bored me” attitude, is a good thing.  Because in such times some very important things are happening in a child’s brain:  they are becoming thinkers, even philosphers.  They are being programmed as God intended, becoming the programmers of their own lives, the masters of their own thinking, discerners of the lies that masquerade under the guise of “new information!!!”

So here’s some new information:  Put the lens of common sense and the Word of God and the tried and true on your new information and see if it passes the test of workable parenting (that is parenting resulting in kids who are joys and joyous, rather than frustrated terrors).

If you and the world at large do not enjoy your children, your “new information!!!!” is faulty, to put it mildly.  In John Parker-speak, it is “the sheet of the boool”.

Parents, we’re IT!  We must be the adults (do the hard thing without whining) so that our children can be children (we make the decisions so they can grow in peace to the place where they can make decisions which are age and maturity appropriate).

Again, we are to be the adults, folks.  It’s wrong to rob a child of their childhood because we don’t want to grow up.  Your kids never asked for you as a parent.  They are the victims or the victors, depending on your choices.

So here’s something to try:  do nothing for awhile, every single day.  Think it through, pray it through.  Develop your parenting philosophy based on the knowledge of who your child is and what God intends parenting to be (see how He parents us – there’s a bit of sacrifice involved).  Exchange knee-jerk, angst and anger filled parenting with a spiritual, mental, and physical grace dance.

Enjoy!

Elaboration of this and so much more in just a couple of hours on The Homefront Show.  Tune in and tell a friend:

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Is this year, this spring, going to be different?

The following is some of the material from today’s Homefront Show radio broadcast.  To listen in, simply go to http://www.1360am.co and enjoy1

When I lived in the south fall was my favorite season – the end of the heat! But now it’s spring and for some reason, I am more excited about spring than ever before in my life.  It’s not because of the end of the cold, in fact I am wanting that to last a little longer.  It’s something more.  Partly, at least, I think it’s because god is doing a new thing, teaching an old dog new tricks, renewing my mind as never before.  Because It’s time for ACT II.

This morning, as usual before every show (Homefront Show Coming up at 2:00!), John was praying for me, for the show and everyone listening.  He said something about people out there in need of a victory for the home team, and that struck a chord in my heart.  So I asked him if he would actually come on and pray on the air today.  And even though he wasn’t keen on the idea at first, he later agreed.  So we have that to look forward to.

I believe in faithfulness and loyalty and tradition and dependability. I believe in antiques and antique people.  And what makes those things special is when they are a part of  the new thing, the adventure.  For instance, in the trip we’re leaving on tomorrow – it’s a new thing trip to see some loyal, faithful, dependable, traditional people, some of them very young antiques.  I’ll talk more about that in today’s broadcast.

It’s springtime – we actually in Red Feather Lakes are about to have two days in a row without snow! Springtime.  Spring cleaning, new beginnings, opening windows and airing out the house, seeking that first fresh and locally grown produce, breathing deeply and being reminded of God’s faithfulness – that Spring always comes.

And I am remembering that I enjoy what I consider “good” poetry in the Spring.. For me good poetry reminds me of God’s beauty, grandeur, goodness, and love.  Words of loveliness, like in  Robert Frost’s Stopping by Woods, my all-time favorite poem – but it’s about winter.  For a spring poem to share on today’s show, I found one about dancing mountains by E.E. Cummings.  I think is the very thing, and I hope you enjoy it.


To enjoy the poem, as well as thoughts about the dining room table, Clint Eastwood’s movie about an averted terrorist attack starring the actual players in the true story, some home ec tips you may have forgotten or never knew, and much more, join me today at http://www.1360am.co and thanks!

PREVIEW OF TODAY’S 2:00 PM MTN TIME HOMEFRONT SHOW!

 

TODAY (FRIDAY, APRIL 20) AT 2:00, ON WWW.1360AM.CO WE’RE GOING TO FINISH SOME OF WHAT WE STARTED LAST WEEK, AND WE’RE GOING TO TALK ABOUT BEING AWAKE AND ALIVE. IT’S SPRINGTIME AND IT’S TRANSFORMATION, GROWTH, AND REFRESHMENT TIME.

BUT EVEN AS WE LOOK FORWARD, AND AS WE MAKE THE MOST OF THE PRESENT, WE’RE GOING TO SEE HOW WE ARE TO LOOK AT THE PAST IN ORDER TO FACILITATE TRANSFORMATION, GROWTH AND REFRESHMENT..

NEXT FRIDAY, BY THE WAY, WE’RE GOING TO HAVE A HOME EC. 101 SHOW. IN A SEGMENT ENTITLED “DO TRY THIS AT HOME” I’M GOING TO TELL YOU WHAT HAPPENED RECENTLY WHEN I GAVE IN ABOUT THE FRENCH CHILDREN AT MY HOUSE.  WE’LL TALK ABOUT AUTHENTIC DECORATING, THE POWER OF THE DINING ROOM TABLE, RAISING NON-WHINING CHILDREN, AND MORE.  SO PUT THAT ON YOUR CALENDAR  – FRIDAY THE 27TH AT 2:00 – WWW.1360AM.CO

TODAY WE’LL ALSO BE EXPLORING PATIENCE AND TALK ABOUT THE PATIENCE OF A SAINT (THIS SEGMENT IS NOT ABOUT ME) AND FROM THE FOUNDER’S BIBLE  I’LL BE SHARING “A CONSTITUTIONAL CONUNDRUM.”

REBEKAH PARKER WILL BE JOINING US TODAY, AND I HOPE YOU FEEL FREE TO CALL IN AND JOIN US AS WELL, AND THAT YOU’LL CALL SOMEONE WHO NEEDS A BIT OF ENCOURAGEMENT AND INSPIRATION, TO SAY, “TUNE IN OR SIMPLY GO TO WWW.1360AM.CO.  AND WHEN YOU GET TO 1360AM.CO CLICK ON THE LIVE RADIO BUTTON.”

I’LL ALSO TALK TODAY ABOUT WHAT TO DO IF YOU NEED A GOOD FRIEND, AND ABOUT PRAYING FOR AND HAVING AND BEING A RARE AND BEAUTIFUL FRIEND – PROVERBS 24:4 TALKS ABOUT OUR HOUSES BEING FILLED WITH ALL PRECIOUS AND PLEASANT RICHES, AND WHEN CERTAIN PEOPLE ARE IN MY HOUSE, IT IS FILLED WITH PRECIOUS AND PLEASANT RICHES.  BUT AS FAR AS NON-HUMAN RICHES, THE WORD OF GOD IN MY BIBLE IS MY MOST PRECIOUS AND PLEASANT TREASURE, AND I’VE BEEN MINING FROM IT FOR A LONG TIME.AND IT’S SO MARVELOUS WHEN I DISCOVER A NEW GEM, A NEW SHINING, SPARKLING, LIBERATING TRUTH.  TODAY, WE’LL HAVE A NEW WAY OF LOOKING AT PROVERBS 31.

I WILL BEGIN TODAY’S SHOW WITH A POEM I SENT TO MY SON WHO IS IN FORT BLISS, TEXAS, PREPARING FOR DEPLOYMENT TO THE MIDDLE EAST, AND I’D LIKE TO SAY RIGHT NOW THAT SOLDIERS, AND EVERYONE ELSE WHO SERVES, WHOSE HEART IS TO SERVE AND PROTECT, TO MAKE LIFE BETTER FOR OTHERS, ARE ROYALTY. I’LL TALK MORE ABOUT ROYALTY, AS PERTAINING TO QUEENS OF THE HOUSE TODAY, TIME PERMITTING.  IF NOT, LOOK FORWARD TO THAT IN NEXT WEEK’S SHOW.

THANK YOU FOR JOINING ME TODAY ON THE HOME FRONT SHOW!

BEV

Snow Day Musings

The Captivating Keep

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It has been a whirlwind three weeks, and then yesterday two marvelous things happened:  First I learned that the radio station would be closed on Friday and that I could stop fretting about getting my show ready.  Second, a foot of snow was forecast.

I awoke this morning to whiteness and quietness – snow falling on spruce and pine, the aspen edged in white lace.  The insistent “What should I do with this day?” is being snow-muffled into a “Let’s just let this day reveal itself – an unfolding of grace.”

I peel an orange.  Not an orange, actually.  Rather a glorified celebration of refreshment called a Minneola Tangelo.  I savor a segment at a time as I do bits of this and that, watching the snow falling, falling, falling.

Into my new and quite marvelous stovetop percolator (another post is coming soon to tell more of this wonder) goes a mixture…

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The Founder’s Bible, God’s Desire to Answer Prayer, From Addict to Pastor, Transformative Years and More Coming Up!

From The Founder’s Bible I”ll be sharing proof of God’s desire to answer the prayers of America’s Founding Fathers today on The Homefront Show.

Today’s show is about transformation via the Gospel and I’ll showcase the story of a former alcoholic, drug addicted Marine who is now a fervent and effectual minister of the Gospel.

There’s much more, including two special guests, a book giveaway (Philip DelRe’s God the Final Frontier), and thoughts from Bob Barnes (Emilie’s husband) taken from his book, What Makes a Man Feel Loved.

So, call someone who needs a lift and a blessing and a new perspective and tell them to join us:  http://www.1360am.co on Friday, March 23 at 2:00 Mountain.

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Formative Years and Transformative Years

It’s Springtime in the Rockies and I have never been more excited than I am about Spring, 2018.  It’s been clean up, declutter, and cleanse time, and I don’t just mean closets and cupboards.

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God is at work in my heart and it’s astounding and marvelous.  Just as the water turkeys, ducks and geese on the almost-thawed local lakes are going ahead with their visiting, fishing, and welcoming Spring before it’s quite upon us, I too am welcoming, ready for Spring.  I am ready for newness, growth, surprises, adventure – transformation.

At the ripe young age of almost 60 (I love being older each year!) I have learned to embrace and give thanks for those things from my formative years which have stood me in good stead.  And I am learning that each year I live is more a transformative year than was the year before.

But there is something in the air, something special about 2018.  I believe the Love (God’s Agape) more than ever before and the Love is changing my heart, cleansing and decluttering my mind, transforming me.

It is, as I told my husband, John, as though God has me out in a river on a raft without sides or oars and He is taking me I know not where.  I only know that it is somewhere good.  And the price of the raft ticket was faith working through Love.

Transformation, cleansing, peace.  The Bible says He put eternity in our hearts, and like so many of  His marvelous mysteries, I don’t fully comprehend and understand this statement, and yet, how it speaks to me.

How He speaks to me – patiently, tirelessly, lovingly.  Come along with me and be transformed.  Faithless to fearless, touchy to tender, defensive to delighted, whiny to winner, grouchy to glad.

“Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.”  Thank you, Dearest Lord, for renewal, for transformation.  Amen.

P.S.  I’ll be going more deeply into transformation and ever so much more (like surviving church!) tomorrow, Friday the 23rd, at 2:00 MTN on http://www.1360am.co so please join in and call a friend.  Thanks!