“Come here,” my daughter Rebekah said this morning. I knew the drill. I was trying to hurry and forgetting to put first things first. Hugs.
And as I wrapped my arms about her good (and soon leaving home) self, I had a revelation, a knowing. God loves her like this – huglike, all encompassing, embracing Love. All-is-and-will-be-well Love.
“What’s in a hug?” I pondered. Beyond what we can imagine, I’m certain. I know science will bear me out – in hugs are health and well-being and so much more , so that we all want to be on the receiving end of hugs. Well, that’s not quite right, is it? Both ends of hugs are receiving ends. What I mean is that we are glad when someone opens their arms and says to us, “I’ll take a hug.”
“I’ll take a hug,” is a never-forgotten sentence spoken to me years ago by a woman of grace, and when I really needed that hug.
Give a hug, take a hug. Especially if it’s from and for one of the beloveds in your house.
I usually get up before my darlin’ and am more excited about mornings than is he. So, to wake him properly I always crawl back into bed and hug him. He pats me on the back in his sleep and says nonsensical things like, “It’s too late.” More pats and moans. “I mean early. It’s too early.”
And then a kiss before I jump back up and get to something lovely like tea all alone on the balcony, where I muse a bit more about hugs. And kisses. Sometimes on the cheek from and for people I hardly know.
I, one raised without a lot of hugs and kisses (we all have learned better by now), and kind of shy about the whole thing, especially the kisses, am now a big fan of both.
Here’s how this came about as regards the kisses: A fine young man named Gabriel was spending a holiday with us, and because I knew he was missing his mama and vice versa, I tried to be extra nice to him. Plus, as he was a friend to my son, I felt quite dedicated to his wellbeing and happiness.
And so, when it came time for his departure, he very sweetly and naturally kissed me on the cheek, and as in this morning’s hug with Rebekah, I got a bit of a knowing: This is a good thing. This is a blessing. This is like being a little baby when people kiss on you non-stop, head to toe without a second thought. This is grand.
From that day on I often kiss people on the cheek when I hug them. It’s lovely and I know sometimes they are surprised, and perhaps even displeased. But for the most part, they are getting a knowing, I’m hoping. A revelation that they are not only hug-worthy, but kiss-worthy. Appreciated.