A house is a place to shelter for the night. It warms the body, but not the soul.
A home is a place of refuge, restoration, rest, relaxation, and replenishment.
Do you ever wish someone would come in to your house while you’re gone and clean it, organize it, and best of all, decorate so it feels welcoming when you open the door?
Well, here’s the bad news and the good news. You’re it. Yes, that’s a ton of work and you may feel a little learning-disabled in this area, but the satisfaction gained from cleaning and organizing and making your house a home, a nest, is beyond measure.
Put on some motivational music (Bob Seger’s Old Time Rock and Roll should get you going, or Phil Driscoll’s Soldier will work if it’s a real battle you’re facing) and get started.
Put a load of laundry on (if you don’t have a washer begin by gathering up the laundry and putting it by the front door in preparation for a trip to the laundromat) and put the dishes in the dishwasher and/or in the sink to soak as you go on to the next thing. Now clean the bathroom(s) and then break for fun. No, I don’t mean bon bons and a TV show (NO daytime TV in a place of refuge). I mean a break for some decorating.
Rearrange some furniture and hang pictures in places they’ve never been. Use things in ways you haven’t before. Maybe even use an entire room in a new way. Try a different spread on your bed, especially if the one you have is one of those “in-style” atrocities so many of us have, in some fit of insanity, mistakenly purchased (there is a demon grouping in Hell responsible solely for the design of ugly home furnishings).
Now, back to work. After things are picked up, clean the floors, dust, and wash the baseboards. Did I say this would be easy? Anyway, I haven’t said anything about washing windows and screens or cleaning the utility room, have I? There’s no rest for the best, and as the HOME keeper, you’re the best.
What about your horrid closets and the mess under the kitchen sink?
That’s for another day, a day you need extra therapy. That’s right. There’s not a shrink on earth who can clear your mind like a cleaned out and organized closet.
So, now it’s looking lots better, you’re feeling lots better, and the house is feeling more like a home. What else can you do?
Cook something that smells delicious (bread is always good), or simply put some vanilla and cinnamon in a pan of water and put it in the oven on low heat. Open the windows and let in the light. Put out stacks of books that won’t impress anyone with your amazing intellectual tastes. Include colorful and fun books, crayons and coloring books, easy puzzles, joke books, and especially beautiful children’s picture books. Don’t have any? Yay! You get to go to the library. Not now! When you’re finished, or next week, whichever comes first.
Put on beautiful music and be sure there are throws, quilts or blankets on the couches and chairs. Decorate with Monopoly, Clue, Pictionary and other forgotten board games. Set one up on an end table, ready for play.
And now, it’s time for tea. While the water’s heating, go take a quick shower and put on something comfy. It’s time for a nice cuppa and a not-particularly-memorable but quite easy-to-read book.
If you’re still feeling a little blue after all this (not really likely) change the tea to hot chocolate. Stir up some raw sugar (or use honey and add after mixture is warm) with a little salt and some cocoa. Add milk, cream, half-n-half, powdered milk, or evaporated milk (or any combination thereof), vanilla flavoring and/or almond flavoring and heat until almost boiling, stirring often.
Serve in just the right mug with extremely well-buttered toast and don’t even think about calories. If you think you could use more protein after all that work, go for it – get a second cup of hot chocolate.