One of the many beauties of home education is that family comes first, naturally. The fruits of that, provided grace is in place, are unlimited, and this was brought home to me recently when I read an article about eliminating negative people (especially those who hinder living in faith and love) from our lives.
I respect the author of this article, and gave serious thought to her words. Was I not eliminating such people out of fear of conflict, or perhaps because I’m too nice? Were they truly a hindrance? There was no question that these people are difficult and tiring, but were they really a problem? A spiritual roadblock?
No. And here’s why: My family keeps me strong, on track. We pray with and for each other, and with and for others, every single day. When I am brought down by someone or something and make my fall evident with frustration and negativity, someone in my family will do as I’ve asked them to do: Don’t let me get away with it!
We learned from Pastor Keith Moore’s example to say, in response to negativity (anything contrary to scripture), “If you say so.”
Aaaargh! It makes us wanna box someone’s ears (I’ve been reading too much Georgette Heyer, if there’s any such thing as too much Georgette Heyer ). But, instead, we take deep breaths, roll our eyes, wrinkle our noses as though at a very unpleasant odor, and change our words.
Me: “I’m sick to death of his crap and I’m gonna give him a piece of my mind.”
Brat Child of Mine with Snarky Grin: “If you say so.”
Me: Really deep breath, mutterings, stomps, yeah-buts, etc. Another deep breath. “I am taking his nonsense as an unconscious cry for help, and I’m not giving him a piece of my mind because obviously I can’t spare it, and I’m going to stop and pray for him right now. Will you, dearest child, agree with me in prayer?”
I just strengthened myself, lightened the load of the child who has to listen to MY crap, and prayed myself right out of Satan’s way of thinking and doing, and changed things for the person I prayed for. Rather than a piece of my mind, he got a piece of God’s love. Amen!