When the kids were growing up John and I prayed this daily: Father, anoint us as parents.
But even though I vehemently disagreed with the idea that kids are adults at eighteen, that our job is finished, somewhere along the way I started acting like I believed that rot. Somewhere, for some reason, we stopped praying that powerful prayer.
Sure we still prayed for our kids, sure we were still very available, but we thought, what? That they no longer needed parenting anointed by God, that we no longer needed His help, that the battle was over and won?
The words began whispering themselves to me a few weeks back: Pray for anointed parenting. Finally, last night, after listening to my kids’ conversation and seeing the evidence of needed peace in their hearts, I said to John, “We need to pray for anointing as parents again.” He immediately agreed and we IMMEDIATELY did it.
NEVER, EVER, EVER WAIT TO PRAY. Do it then and there, or that very important opportunity will escape.
You may be asking, “What is this anointed parenting stuff?” This is parenting with the power and wisdom of God Himself, wherein your child’s heart is revealed, and the words coming out of your mouth are words of life, rather than words of nonsense and destruction.
After listening to the prideful disdain for others coming out of my child’s mouth last night, and keeping still until I prayed, I received revelation about what’s really going on in his mind. Rather than being aggravated with him, my heart became very tender toward him. Rather than being afraid of the tendencies I see him learning toward, I became warlike in my desire to fight for and with him.
I began to strategize. I went to the Word and then got on my knees, and I realized something: I haven’t been showing the humility necessary to get his attention. I haven’t been humble enough to realize that apart from Him, I can do nothing.
I can sense the Holy Spirit ordering my thoughts, cleansing my heart, and strengthening me for the task at hand. It’s exciting. The call to battle of motherhood is a continual call and a continual battle, and in Him, we win.
Amen.